THEME 6: LOVE AND LUST
Sexuality is a positive force that is present in varying degrees throughout life. World Health Organization has defined it as:
“Sexuality is an integral part of every human personality, which can not be separated from other aspects of life. Sexuality is not the same as sexual intercourse or ability to orgasm, sexuality is much more. It’s the energy that drives us to seek love, warmth and closeness. Sexuality is expressed in what we feel, how we move and how we touch and get touched by others. Sexuality affects our thoughts, feelings, actions and our interactions with other people. ”
Puberty is the time when our body is preparing to be fertile and able to produce children. When we talk about puberty, we think of the changes that happens to you during the development from child to adult. High temper is common, and it is somehow very easy to get into arguments at home. One many rebel against ones parents and their attitudes. This is an important time for you to find out who you are and develop your own identity.
The formation of new hormones, might make you feel lusts and unusual desires. This creates room for feelings, friendships and love. At the same time you may experience that the sexual experiences make room for some strong feeling in you, that may accommodate both intimacy, abandonment, loneliness and anxiety.
Many people believe that others have had sexual intercourse earlier than they themselves. That is often not true. Average age of debut for girls is about 17 years and for boys around 18. Some begin as early as 13-14 years of age, while others wait until they are well above 20
Culture and sexuality
Sexuality is a fundamental and important part of all people. Sexual moral and attitudes are transmitted from generation to generation. As a rule, sexuality is regulated by both culture and religion. In some cultures, the family decides everything. Over the last decades, Norway has become a more multicultural society. In the encounter between cultures, we discover each other’s norms and traditions. This involves different views on sexuality, what is allowed and not allowed, differences in views of gender, what is allowed for girls and what is allowed for boys. Many have a tradition that sexual education are to take place in the private sector, and some may feel offended by the schools interference with this subject. Some parents might think that if one talks to young people about sex, it will cause them to practice it.
In many cultures, the man is the head of the family, and the boys have more privileges than girls. The girls ‘mobility is more limited than the boys, and the attention paid to the girls’ virginity is protected until the wedding night. The boys have no virginity to protect, and can not become pregnant. Sex before marriage will therefore not have serious consequences for them. Their sexual behavior is not controlled in the same degree as girls.
- What do you think of the debut age varies so much?
- Is the information to boys ‘and girls’ about sexual activity presented in different ways?
- Is it common for young people to be bragging about their sexual experiences?
- Could there be too much openness about sex?
- Do you notice any cultural differences when it comes to sexuality?
Task: Look online and find out more about the hormonal changes that occur in the body.